I’ve heard it countless times and each time,
It never settled right with me.
There was always something in me that didn’t agree with ‘Fake it till you make it.‘
And I think I am beginning to at least see a glimpse in why this statement that we so often use,
Isn’t helpful at all,
Because we should never have to fake anything.
We should never have to pretend to be something we are not,
Or hide pieces of who we are.
We are to come, in all our insecurities and flaws,
To come even in our regrets and our mistakes,
To be seen.
And that is what’s wrong with ‘Fake it till you make it’,
It makes you feel that your tough times shouldn’t be happening,
That you shouldn’t feel a certain way or that you should hide what truly is going on.
Whatever we hide, creates a place for deeper hurt, resentment and all those other feelings.
For when we suppress something or pretend it’s not there – it doesn’t go away, it tends to get worse.
If you’re feeling sad, be sad – talk about it, get people who you love and respect to listen and let you be sad.
If you need to grieve, let yourself grieve – give yourself time to deal with loss, to deal with that hurt and pain.
If you are angry – let that out in a constructive way before it comes out in a destructive way.
You don’t always have to be happy, funny, joyful to be lovable.
And if those around you don’t want to be with you if you aren’t those things – then they have their own things that they may need to work through.
Because that what community is – to go through all things together, every stage.
The good, the not so good, the beautiful and the ugly.
Life isn’t always good, it isn’t easy, it isn’t always picture perfect and we face some real messes.
And that’s okay – it’s okay to not always be okay.
Stop ‘Faking it till you make it.’
And just be real.
For when we allow ourselves to be who we truly are,
Especially by coming to God just as we are,
Allowing ourselves to be seen by a God who already knows us,
Who knows the depths of our hearts,
Who knows us better than we know ourselves,
Who knows our deepest hurts, greatest pains, biggest fears –
And yet still deeply loves us –
In all that, when we come to Him not wearing any masks or pretending to be someone we are not – He is able to heal us, restore us, redeem us and create in us a new heart.
There is nothing I can do in and of myself apart from Him –
Nothing out of my own strength in which I could do to heal my self.
And that is why we have turned to ‘Faking it’
Because we realize that we cannot change ourselves – we can only hide, pretend, cover up and put on a mask.
But that is the beautiful thing about our Savior and King,
He calls us to take it all off.
To show who we truly are, mess and all,
So that He can be seen.
For it is in our weakness, in those area’s of our lives where we can no longer pretend we have it all together,
That God is able to show His strength.
As I write this, I too am seeing area’s of my life where I hide,
Where I try to cover up all that I am not so that others will only see the best of me –
But I no longer want to fake it.
Because I want God to show Himself in all His glory.
To show that He can make even messy and ugly things beautiful.
That He can redeem even the most broken area’s of our hearts –
Because when we ourselves cannot do something, that is when others are able to see God.
To see His love, to see His grace, to see how real He is and how He isn’t afraid of even our broken bits.
That He doesn’t expect us to be perfect or to be flawless when we come to Him,
But He wants us, even in our rags, even in our hurt hearts, even with the baggage we carry –
To continue to come to Him;
So that He can remove all that we hold onto,
So that He can speak to our hearts and remind us of His truths,
So that He can remove the labels we have placed on ourselves of not being good enough, smart enough, loving enough, etc.
So that He can make new what is starting to strangle us.
And to me this is a beautiful message,
This brings me hope,
This brings life to my weary heart.
Knowing that I don’t have to fake it.
That I don’t have to make myself look like something I am not in order for God to love me, or even for others do too.
For that is the beauty of relationships, of friendships rooted in the Lord,
Even in our ugliness – we can still be loved.
For the deep love of our Father (agape love) is a choice, it isn’t based on feeling or emotion. It is the very essence of who He is. And He loves unconditionally – not just when we are lovable.
But He takes the unlovable in the eyes of the world and through His love shows them how lovable they truly are.
And that gives my heart peace,
Knowing that regardless of what people see or don’t see in me,
He has already shown me His love, His grace and that we are to look to Him and not the approval of man.
“And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. Therefore I am well content with weaknesses, with insults, with distresses, with persecutions, with difficulties, for Christ’s sake; for when I am weak, then I am strong.”
2 Corinthians 12:9
So be real,
For when we show our weaknesses, we are able to meet others in theirs.
When we allow ourselves to be seen – especially by God,
He can make beautiful the dirt we see – showing us that even in those area’s He is enough to heal them.
But we must be willing to be healed,
We must be willing to let those area’s be seen in order to let go of them.
So stop faking it till you make it – rather let Him heal you, restore you, walk through those things with you, so that you can be who you are, in all area’s and His glorious riches can be seen.
Because you are enough just as you are – you don’t have to be someone you aren’t or try to cover up the area’s you feel you fall short.
All you must do is come, show up and be you.
For you are deeply loved and valued just as you are.
Have a great Wednesday friends.